People Change

Your first love was absolutely perfect.  You met in high school because your lockers were next to each other and it was like a fairy tale come true… he was your best friend, she was the best thing that ever happened to you.  You were inseparable … you even planned your life out.

1.  Go to the same college, you would be a doctor and she would be a lawyer. 
2. Go to the same grad school or at least be in the same city.

3. Get married and then pursue your careers.  Life would be hard financially at                      first, but love would help you get through it.

4. Go buy the perfect house, have kids and live happily ever after.

This is what happened when you went off to college…

You both head off to the college of your dreams and at first it was continuation of high school, until the late night study sessions happened, which introduced each of you to new friends.  These friends brought new experiences into your life, which changed your perspective on the future you.  You still loved your high school sweetheart, but you were growing apart.  You weren’t really interested in being a doctor and spending all of that time in school, however, possibly teaching English in another country peaked your interest.  She still wanted to be a lawyer and was forging ahead, deciding what law school she would attend and avidly studying for the LSATS.  The question on both of your minds is…

Do we stay and fight for the love we had/have or do we move forward with our current dreams and see how your life unfolds?

There is a movie called Sliding Doors with Gwyneth Paltrow that illustrates how no matter what decision you make in life that you will end up in the same place.  One road is easy and the other is hard, but you choose threw various decisions, which one you take.

Although, we rarely think about relationships when developing our personal brand, it is quite a key element.  The person you interact with on a daily basis can either help or hinder the development of your brand.  If he/she is not supportive, jealous or blocks you in any way from achieving your dreams.. Are they the one for you?   On the contrary the partner who is your biggest cheerleader, harshest critic when necessary, could be the catalyst to surpassing your dreams or pushing you too far to fast.  You have to know yourself to know who is right for you and the longevity of your brand and your relationship.

Be Blessed,

A. Mayartis J.